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I'm not interested in dating right now


Another huge mistake that we make as people is telling a lie because we either : 1. Want to soften the blow 2. Afraid to reveal the truth for our own personal reasons or 3. We don’t say it because we don’t think that the reason will be accepted as valid or good enough.  With number one, it is what it is. You only set themselves up for a false perception of what the issue is which in no way helps you or them. For instance, let’s say it’s because their breath stinks . If you don’t tell them that then how will they know to stock up on mouthwash and brush their tongue more thoroughly? Not to mention now they are up in the next persons face about to make them pass out. So you not only hurt them, but their next victim as well…shame on you! : ). For number two, well the truth shall set you free. Now that I think about it, 2 & 3 are kind of connected. Whether you reason is valid or not, it is simply your reason and that has to be respected. If there is something bad or invalid about your reason well you should still let it out because maybe there is something you need to learn and overcome. That will not happen by hiding your genuine reason. Lies are never good, but truth is always the key to progress and positive things to come. It may come off as harsh, but we all need tough love sometimes. Last thing about being honest, when you give a BS reason you leave the door open to nonsense in that situation. That person and other people may recognize it is BS because your words and your actions do not line up. Which now gives that person reason to dig deeper and that can turn into a bigger mess or a more persistent, relentless approach. Being honest will save you any extra drama and let that person know clearly that you are not interested.


I'm not interested in dating right now

I'm not interested in dating right now





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